Many who watch the videos streaming from Syria see a third-world impoverished country, destitute-looking people we cannot find commonalities with no matter how much our hearts are pained and no matter how much our conscious agonizes.
What does aÂ suburbanite Virginia housewife, or an Iowa farmer, or aÂ CaliforniaÂ college professor have in commonÂ withÂ the Syrian people? Almost nothing. Our suffering pains many, but the memory of the pain lasts seconds. This is not a universal picture of course, but it is a true picture if we set aside the formalities of political correctness and look hard at Syria from the common denominator angle that usually leads to more than empathy.
Most Syrians fighting and getting killed are impoverished; they have been forced to feed from the bottom of the barrel by a regime of terror intent on demolishing anyÂ humanÂ attributes of success from a people itÂ considersÂ its enemy. Most Syrians are not finely educated in the art of life be it in recognizing what is permissible or in behaving in accordance with any norm we are familiar with here in America, which, in the eyes of law abiding citizens, makes them an oddity. However, the honest truth is that Syrians are like any other mammalÂ we meet and until we get to know them intimately, we cannot feel the warmth of the same mammal heart that beats in their body. Consider how much oppression they shouldered silently to fully grasp their nature.
Americans are the most generous and the kindest people on the planet when you get to really know them the way I, as an American-Syrian, have over the last 34 years of living in the US. This universality is demonstrated aptly and consistently by the number of NGO’s helping others, by the billions of Dollars Americans donate every year knowing the good deeds their money will serve, and by the colorful and innovative ways a neighbor always finds it in his heart to help his fellow neighbor during times of crisis. If you want amazing, I tell my fellow Syrians, come to America and you will understand the courage and the boldness of the American people.
ButÂ AmericansÂ are confused and distracted today. They are confused by wars and distracted by the domestic failure of their political leadership. Their attention span is dwindling even if they occasionally see some of the horrific videos of Syrians dying needlessly. It’s not because America does not want to pay attention, it is because America has too much on its plate today. To most Americans, essentially, Syria is like butter on a dinner table in a medical conference on the dangers ofÂ cholesterol; almost no one is going to reach for it.
Syrians today are swimming upstream. Like salmon, they are getting caught in the paws of the Russian bear and consumed rapidly and viciously. The outside world see us this way and see the bear catching us for a meal or two and think of the oddity of nature. It stops at that.
But Syrians are not consumable oddities. Our hearts are in perpetual grief over the dying of our children and our humanity pours excessively for them the way humanity was expressed for the Newton horrific tragedy.
I believe that the beating heart of mothers is what connects humanity; theirs is the silent symphony that grooms our children, from the pain they feel, to be the great men and women with deeds greater than life itself. Fathers set the course, but mothers set the agenda.
The beating hearts of Syrian mothers, too, play in that symphony and their pain will one day groom great Syrian men and women to achieve great deeds. That’s our only hope in the midst ofÂ violence, terror, destruction, and loss of life.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year